I'll never forget the first trans person I knowingly met. (I say knowingly because we always have trans people around us, we just aren't always aware of them...

We rarely ponder our own mortality until something like COVID19 is staring us in the face. It’s a rude awakening to just how much we take li

Pete and Chasten broke through the lavender ceiling. Our nation is forever impacted because of this moment in history. This is cause to cel

Yesterday I stood alongside members of the LGBTQ community both on the steps of City Hall and in the historic chambers where local history has been made sinc...

Conversion Therapy is in the news nearly every day. Thanks to movies like Boy Erased and others, the horrible, unscientific practice of trying to change one...

“Bisexuals are the unicorn of the queer world.” - Dr. Nora Ekeanya, local Kansas City psychiatrist who identifies as bisexual and is married to her husband. ...

I purposefully haven't said much about my faith since I came out in 2002. I didn't want it to be a distraction to anyone. It has been journey and an evolut...

Kansas City is reeling from the murder of Brooklyn Lindsey a black trans woman who was found dead on the steps of a vacant home on the morning of Tuesday, Ju...

Apparently, May 16th is National LGBTQ Elders Day. I'm not sure I knew this day existed until today, but I've seen several social media posts about it. Whi...

David and I celebrated 13 years together on February 23. In gay years that’s like 40, so the joke goes. The truth is, I know many LGBTQ couples whose relatio...

I was everything a godly man should be, yet I was gay and I knew those two could never coexist in that world. No matter how Godly I was I kn

August was an unexpected storytelling month for me. On August 10 I was invited to tell a story on stage in Chicago for RISK!. The concept of the podcast is...

I was an enigma to my father. He didn't know what to do with me nor how to relate to me. I was my mother's child. Unlike my much older brothers, I had no int...

January 2012 My mother died today. It wasn’t unexpected. It wasn’t a dramatic exit. She ate lunch, lay down and died. My Dad called to tell me the news, his ...

One of my favorite scenes from the musical Dream Girls is when Effie attempts a return to showbiz but after her career ended in part due to her diva reputati...

In the event of a decompression, an oxygen mask will automatically appear in front of you. To start the flow of oxygen, pull the mask towards you. Place it f...

“Live! Live! Live! Life is a banquet and most poor sons of bitches are starving to death!” - Auntie Mame I fell in love with Mame the moment I saw Rosalind R...

RuPaul sums it up quite well. Permission to be loved begins with allowing yourself to love YOU! I'm sure I'm not the only one who grew up being taught that l...

Just before Christmas 2017 I published the 12 Permission for a Better Life. Now that 2018 is here, let's take a 12 week journey together. Each week I'll ta...

Tis the season of giving. This year celebrate YOU! Show yourself some love with a gift that will transform your life: The gift of permission. In the spirit ...